Learning

I think I've learned a few things lately....

One sided relationships where only one person loves the other... never work.

also

Relationships where someone loves the other before they've been dating for at least a year or so, also never work...

I've noticed these trends in both my own and all of my friend's relationships. Love has to be something that grows over time, it has to be something that developed after a foundation has already been created. A relationship cannot be started or maintained at first by love, it (surprisingly enough) must be built on stronger stuff. If you love someone before you've known them for at least 4 months, then you don't really know them well at all. How can you love someone unless you know EVERY little thing about them? That isn't real love, and if you think you love someone after just meeting them, then good luck having a real relationship. If you can get over someone, then it wasn't love. Real love is devastating, real love is destroying, real love is more destructive than anything else in the universe.

Love is not when you really really like someone. Love is not when you like someone more than you've liked anyone else before in your life. Love isn't even being able to see yourself with someone in the future. Love is something that develops slow... starts off small, and grows into something truly beautiful. If the person you love doesn't love you back, then its like taking away the water from a plant, nothing can grow.

Also, you can never force yourself or someone else to feel love. And generally, real love is so rare, if you have a one-sided love, the most likely thing to happen is for them NOT to end up loving you back.

Anyway, this is what I think about it. You can all have your own opinions and totally disagree with me, but I just felt like typing this all out (it follows a conversation I was having). If you have a different opinion, why not blog about it?

Also, I'm too young to really understand love, but I accept that I could never really understand love... and I just hope that's enough for now